I will never forget getting punched in the face for not moving from my spot in the bus line. I was in 3rd Grade when “The Bully” came up to me and said: “Move”! I didn’t listen and he continued barking at me to move. I am a bit stubborn and then came the punch! Clear across the face. I didn’t cry but at this point I got up and stared him down. No one spoke but he went to the back of the line. Luckily for me that was my ONLY bully experience.
It frightens me because I never told my Mom there was a Bully. For sure NEVER told that I got punched!! I want my kids to tell me. Which leaves me with a scarier question: what advice do I have if they do? Get punched? Suicide over a Bully is not okay!! Not okay!! It must be stopped and how?
My only suggestion so far: (yes I am an overachiever!!)
Have the Bully Chat: I started talking to my kids about “The Bully” behavior. I told them a person sometimes doesn’t have to punch or kick you. Words can hurt people. I told them to be accountable for what they say and my favorite expression “kill them with kindness!”
The Bully Chat helped for my kids to open up. My 3rd grader said a girl pinches him ALL the time. He said that because I always say “don’t hurt girls” he doesn’t defend himself! I told him that anything that “hurts” the teacher and I need to know about!! I told him it is not okay and if it didn’t stop to please let me know. (I plan on calling the Mom if it doesn’t stop.)
It is impossible to prevent all the kids from becoming “The Bully”, but I can start with mine!
This is how serious “The Bully” has become: 2,440,000 links when I googled it.
There are TOO many stories on Teen Suicide over “The Bully”. I’m inspired to make a change by spreading the word!